The subject of recovery for survivors of abuse is not often talked about. What happens after you leave? How to you go about rebuilding a normal life after divorcing an abusive husband? For anyone who has left an abusive relationship, the following article offers help and guidance to make the transition a little easier.
I’m out – now what?
Change is always difficult, even if it’s what we want and a change for the better. The adjustments we must make not only to our daily life, but our way of thinking are so huge we may be left feeling overwhelmed. This puts us at risk of losing sight of our dream or worse – back in the arms of the abuser.
It’s important to make sure we don’t feel overwhelmed and adjust comfortably to our new life.
Many women who have just come out of a long-term abusive relationship are just dying to get a ‘real’ relationship as soon as possible. Many feel they have been emotionally alone for a very long time – and they have. Unfortunately, getting into another relationship too soon isn’t always wise. We haven’t had time to find ourselves and we are at risk of falling into the same trap of abuse again. Behavior changes slowly, not just for the abuser but for us as well.
If you already have your eye on some guy and are afraid you will lose him, don’t be. If the feeling is mutual, he will wait and allow you time to heal. Don’t allow yourself to get desperate and jump from the frying pan into the fire!